Like Your Body

(My submission to the body talk conference)

Life's not fair, and nothing good is going to come of blaming our woes on society. I think the world is based way too much on placing blame when it should be centered on solving the problem. If punishing the perpetrator solves the problem, do it. But usually it doesn't. There will always be people who don't look like you do. I pray we'll never become a society of clones (although it would erase this "my body isn't as good as so-and-so's" thing) who all have the same body type.

What Iím trying to tell ya is, if you want to look in the mirror and like what you see, you can't want to be something you're not. I know, I know, easier said than done. But it's possible. Being healthy is one thing, being thin is another. Many people don't even like thin. I'm not thin - Iíve got a good amount of pudge around my midsection and generally all over - and the only time I was ever lacking in male attention was when I obsessed over my body and thought there was something wrong with me and that no one would ever like me. Fortunately, I had the good sense to get myself out of that situation, and as soon as I did, I started to like myself more and stopped obsessing over my body. And, wow! It was like a chain reaction. As someone who posted before me said, happiness is the biggest turn-on. I made lots of friends and found out that people did want to go out with me after all.

Don't ever think that you're not a worthwhile person because of the way you look. If the people around you make you feel guilty about eating, or about your self-image, GET OUT OF THAT SITUATION!! There is ALWAYS something you can do about it, from talking to someone to joining a support group to posting on a message board. One of the main reasons I love the internet is that you're faceless; people only know what you want them to know about you. Find someone to talk to who actually appreciates your mind, because honey, if someone wanted to date me just for my appearance, they would quickly receive a boot to the rear. The best part of any relationship for me, be it friendly or romantic, is having long intellectual discussions and generally having fun, not anything physical.

Enough ranting for me for one day. I'll leave you to your ponderings. If you're inclined to comment on this rant (or any other), please use my comment form.

"People talk
About my image
Like I come in two dimensions
Like lipstick is a sign of my declining mind.
Like what I happen to be wearing
The day that someone takes a picture
Is my new statement for all womankind."
- Ani Difranco, Little Plastic Castles

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Written 01/12/98.